Here is an unabridged, not untypical day-in-the-life of an Aspie Daddy.
06.00 – get up and feed baby.
07.00 – wake Lizzie to look after baby while I walk dog.
08.00 – feed dog, feed cat, open hen house, have breakfast (porridge oats and coffee).
08.30 – resume looking after baby. She scratches my left eye with her fingernail – very painful.
09.00 – autism support worker arrives. Continue to look after baby and chat about issues until Lizzie is free to take over.
09.45 – tidy hall, clean kitchen, clean bathroom.
11.00 – autism support worker leaves. Feed baby while supervising erection of Christmas lights.
11.30 – prepare and eat lunch (rice and tuna).
11.45 – prepare a bottle.
12.00 – pack car and head off as family to swimming.
12.30 – arrive at swimming, change and get baby ready.
13.00 – father-daughter swimming lesson with baby.
13.30 – dry and dress baby and self, go home.
14.00 – feed baby.
14.30 – put baby down to nap.
14.40 – baby wakes screaming.
15.30 – baby pokes me in right eye.
16.00 – hand baby back to Lizzie and go online to enter short story contest.
16.30 – power cut, world turns black. Phone electricity company who think power will be restored by 19.35.
17.00 – send Lizzie to her dad’s with the baby, bottles, formula and Perfect Prep machine.
17.15 – feed cat and dog by the light of a headtorch.
17.30 – light mango and pomegranate candle and cook bacon and eggs for tea. Boil water on stove for cup of tea.
18.00 – go join Lizzie and baby at her dad’s. Play with baby; cuddle baby; feed baby; watch Lizzie eat lasagne.
21.00 – return to cold house. Power still out. Phone electricity company who think power will be restored by midnight.
21.15 – Start to put baby to bed. She is excited by my headtorch. Thinks it’s a funny game.
22.15 – baby finally settles. Run bath for Lizzie. Shut up hen house.
22.30 – Lizzie goes to bed with runny nose and cough. I wash up baby’s bottles and fill dishwasher.
23.00 – batteries run out in baby monitor. Find one new AAA battery (it takes four). Replace one battery.
23.15 – check on baby. Put extra blanket over her.
23.45 – try to settle horrendously unhappy screaming baby who seems to have developed cough.
00.30 – battery in baby monitor runs out. No spares. Wake Lizzie to listen out for baby while I take steriliser out to electricity engineer’s van and sterilise bottles.
00.45 – dress in onesie and lie on floor of baby’s (freezing) room as no monitor. Lizzie back to sleep.
01.20 – power back on. Make up two bottles of boiled and cooled water, just in case. Turn off Christmas lights, let dog out to toilet, turn up heating, fill and put dishwasher on, eat bowl of cornflakes and drink coffee.
02.15 – go online to finish entering short story contest (see 16.00).
02.35 – check on baby and finally go to bed.
03.00 – baby sneezes and coughs, but still asleep.
05.00 – kick bastard cat out of the bedroom.
06.00 – get up to feed baby. Baby has runny nose and cough.
The moral of this story is to expect the unexpected. And if you’re planning on having kids and think it won’t utterly and irrevocably change your life – hahahahahaha!